Like Minds and thinking alike

Just a quick note regarding something that I am happy to have found.

Colorado..famous for the Rocky Mountains

Colorado..famous for pot legalization

Colorado..famous for it's Bronco fans

Colorado,.,famous for being conservative....

I must admit to feeling more than a bit repressed since my move here because there
are certain things I am not allowed to discuss in the house..namely politics, fracking,
chem trails, and the corporate controlled media. I was beginning to feel I could not express myself at
all, it was not appreciated and I was even told to NOT talk about those things and others.

So I must admit to feeling relieved and refreshed to find out that I am not the lone
liberal in Larimer county. I have spoken with a co-worker, who I will not name, but
totally enjoyed speaking with about all those mentioned things above and more. It was like
finding a friend in an unexpected place.

The other was a bit more surreal, but that was only due to the fact that it was snowing and I
was cleaning off my car at home when he walked up. This nice man had taken on an enormous
task in trying to get people interested in solar gardens on a day that mother nature blew heavy snow on him. He assured me, while we made small talk about solar, that I was not alone, and that there were many out there that care about the things I was forbidden to discuss.

So, I feel a little less the odd ball, and more than a little relieved to meet these folks.
Sometimes the above mentioned subjects, when brought into conversation, actually scare people, make them uncomfortable, and it's an iffy thing when you take that chance.

So..feeling not alone anymore,

K

There is no "I"

We have become very "self serving" in today's world. Why do so many relationships fail today instead of continuing like our grandparents? Because we think in "I' and not we, or us. I fear the days of marriage lasting those amazing 50 years are gone. If you do know of one of those marriages it is likely that they are from an earlier generation.

When those folks fell in love back then it was forever, come better or worse, and they faced those times together, because they gave each other strength. Adversity was a challenge met by 2 and not 1. They respected each other, and treated each other as they would want to be treated.

Today's world is so very much "me-me-me", what am I not getting that I need? Why is this person that I married not taking care of me? Why am I doing everything myself? I deserve better. The message that is sent by our statements to each other reinforces that. Belittling, not listening, only reacting makes both people wrong.

We have lost the "we." Being in two failed relationships myself I can see that. Some of it was my fault, and definitely some of it was theirs. I thought I was working for the We, but obviously not since it ended in  failure. That was both of our faults, not exclusively mine.

I have lost faith in a relationship working and have no desire to ever search or start another one.
If that means being by myself then so be it. I am happy being alone. I have four legged friends to help, and two legged friends to make me feel happy about being who I am. I do not feel that another person can complete me because only I can do that.

I'll never meet another man again who will change that belief. I have seen far too many failures  to keep the dream of a "soul mate" alive for me. Maybe somewhere in the distant past I had been a part of a great love. Maybe that's why I have tried for so long, or perhaps I believed in fairy tales.

There is no "I" in a marriage. If there is not a "We" than there is nothing.

Not intending to be dark, but it's been a rough night here. Neither party was innocent. But if they only see their own side then they really do not have a "We." Things were said, actions were taken that were nothing but wrong. Being an observer was painful, and keeping my mouth shut was harder still.

A marriage that works takes a lot of compromise, it cannot be one sided. There can only be "we."

~K