Sometimes, no matter how much you care and try to help someone, there is no solution. There comes a time when people need to find their own way. This is not saying that you do not care, but it can become a kind of co-dependence, a perpetual cycle that keeps on repeating because the person you are trying to help won't take responsibility for their own selves. It's easier to have someone help them, or someone to blame.
Today was a sad day, but it could also be a day of new beginnings. I hope that they continue to see it that way; it's a fresh start. It will not be easy. I know about beginning over, I have done it at least twice in my adult life. The first time I was charged with the belief that this was a new start and something wonderful could happen. The second time was a great deal harder because that something wonderful failed miserably.
Was I at rock bottom? Yes, I do believe I was. It sure as hell felt like it.
My blogs (3 of them) reflect the changes and ups and downs of my stumbling into a new beginning,. It was not done by my choice, but because I simply had no other way to go. I know how hard it was by going back and recollecting my steps through my grief of what I felt was a failure. Now I know the failure was not mine. It was destined to be because that something special really wasn't.
But it was really not a FAIL..not at all. I did my best to make something impossible work. When I was tossed out the world loomed quite intimidatingly in my face, and it took a great deal of courage to start over again at my age. But what other choice did I have? There really wasn't one, there is no fixing a problem that someone has, no matter how much you want it. If nothing else I do know that I am stronger now and I will never again depend on another person to complete me, because I complete myself.
I hope that the person I am speaking of can take those first steps. They will be painful. It won't be easy. But in the end you will attain a sense of pride in what You did to make a better life for yourself. And I know he can do it. He will have to kick himself in the pants a few times, but life is nothing if not new possibilities. I hope you find that, I really do. Get the help you need to set things straight, and see things through for yourself. Do not fall back into dependency on another to find your way. Get healthy and then get your head straight. From there on any obstacles will be easily overcome, because you will have faith in yourself. You Can Do It.
I truly hope that you read this...
~K
Today was a sad day, but it could also be a day of new beginnings. I hope that they continue to see it that way; it's a fresh start. It will not be easy. I know about beginning over, I have done it at least twice in my adult life. The first time I was charged with the belief that this was a new start and something wonderful could happen. The second time was a great deal harder because that something wonderful failed miserably.
Was I at rock bottom? Yes, I do believe I was. It sure as hell felt like it.
My blogs (3 of them) reflect the changes and ups and downs of my stumbling into a new beginning,. It was not done by my choice, but because I simply had no other way to go. I know how hard it was by going back and recollecting my steps through my grief of what I felt was a failure. Now I know the failure was not mine. It was destined to be because that something special really wasn't.
But it was really not a FAIL..not at all. I did my best to make something impossible work. When I was tossed out the world loomed quite intimidatingly in my face, and it took a great deal of courage to start over again at my age. But what other choice did I have? There really wasn't one, there is no fixing a problem that someone has, no matter how much you want it. If nothing else I do know that I am stronger now and I will never again depend on another person to complete me, because I complete myself.
I hope that the person I am speaking of can take those first steps. They will be painful. It won't be easy. But in the end you will attain a sense of pride in what You did to make a better life for yourself. And I know he can do it. He will have to kick himself in the pants a few times, but life is nothing if not new possibilities. I hope you find that, I really do. Get the help you need to set things straight, and see things through for yourself. Do not fall back into dependency on another to find your way. Get healthy and then get your head straight. From there on any obstacles will be easily overcome, because you will have faith in yourself. You Can Do It.
I truly hope that you read this...
~K
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