I had to answer a comment that I received before work and left till now because I wanted to work with a clear head and a smile. I suspected that reading it would stay with me a while. It very likely will, but I will abide by the wishes that were expressed. The only reason I mentioned you here right now was for an explanation of why you were brought up in the first place, in response to someone else's comment about our relationship that was addressed to me. So in a sense, I am damned if I do answer, and damned if I don't. I chose to answer, if nothing else than to set my side straight.
**note this part is for r and baby ho-as she signed herself:
One small note..I did post a comment that I had decided to not put here, simply because it explained a 'why' to someone else, and not for the sender's satisfaction. As far as I am concerned it's still not there.
But really...you had to dig to find something to blast me with. It seems to be your primary weapon..that you were able to be a mother and I was not. That was something beyond my control and from my past, so I know who provided you the ammunition . It was Not something I did wrong, is was how God made me, something deeply painful that I fought for 17 years to achieve. Have you ever spent years crying each month because your period came again? Nothing I tried helped, except to completely destroy my uterus trying to get pregnant. So, Thanks ron, take your bow. You the man. Walk around and puff out your chest. And by the way...despite your efforts to hurt..I accepted the fact that it was not my destiny long ago.
As for not being a good mom when I had the opportunity with someone else..I did not think it was my place, and I did not feel my acting as one would have been welcome by either party at that time. I was the interloper, and I do remember the anger present at our first meeting. It was sort of like walking a wire, never being sure what my place should be. She was almost grown, not a child, and she was hurting, and wanted her independence badly. And yes, being confused about which role I was supposed to play did effect my relationship with that person. To her, and Not to either of you, I do express my sincere apologies and very much understand why she would prefer it to not go further. At her request this is the last time I will mention her in a blog.
So I was Reaching for straws? as you put it..so did you. Your soapbox can be found on another blog site. This one is mine. If another comment comes through from you it will be deleted, I really don't care if you get whiplash driving by to look. Neither of you deserve my respect. I have not posted on 'his' blog' in quite some time, and several weeks ago I stopped following it completely. He can resume bragging about how wonderful his 'new' life is...it will never change the way he went about getting it. And THAT is my issue, and will remain so.
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~* I suggest you take some time to examine yourself before casting stones.
~* It is obvious that you do not understand what morality means. That is something you share, living by example...thinking that it is ok to have done what you both did, shows that you do not know, or do not care what your actions say about you or teach .
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